I'm sure you've heard of the term, "Bridezilla" and I'm hoping you have never had to work with one. It is inevitable that something(s) may go wrong on the big day and it is important to be prepared. Don't be a Bridezilla... handle wedding plans with poise and have your bridesmaids on your side. Treat them nicely! Who else is going to help you to the bathroom in your big, white dress?

Consider Their Budget

Let's be honest... It's no easy task to be a bridesmaid. CNN reports the cost of being a bridesmaid averages around $1,695. Keep reasonable requests and communicate them early on. A note to future bridesmaids: consider financial woes when you say "yes!"

Keep a budget in consideration and cut costs where you can. If you can't afford to buy their dresses, research sale events like David's Bridal occasional $20 off promotion. Try off-the-rack dresses from brands like ASOS or Lulu's.  I'm sure it is important for your wedding party to look flawless. I'd argue that it's more important to have your besties at your side.

 

Offer Options

Provide the bridesmaids with color swatches, sample photos, and a preferred material. Let them choose their own dress and shoes. Hopefully they'll find goodies they can wear again!

Don't require the bridesmaids to get their hair and makeup done by your entourage on the day-of. Suggest a more affordable trip to the Sephora counter for their glam fix or an easy hair-do they can do themselves.

 

Choose your battles

Odds are that all your bridesmaids won’t be able to make every festivity. Remember that they have lives outside of your wedding. While you’d love to have them all by your side all the time, standing by your side on your wedding day is the ultimate win.

If you find yourself in disagreement or disappointment during the planning process, remember to choose your battles. Go easy on the meltdowns. Then remember that almost everything is best sorted out in person or over the phone vs. text message. Your bridesmaids know the pressure you are under, and are more than likely trying everything within their power to make things easier for you. These friendships should certainly last past your wedding day. 

 

Celebrate with your gals

Brides, remember what you're celebrating! The beginning of your new life as half of one deserves a celebration. There is no need to impress or entertain others; be yourself with your gals, let them help you celebrate the love you found.

Even if their efforts don't exactly duplicate your Pinterest inspired set-up, graciously thank your bridesmaids! They've worked hard to organize an event in your honor. Smile and thank them with grace. Appreciation won't kill you.

Shower them with love

There is likely no way that you can ever repay your bridesmaids. You don't have to spend a fortune on gifts to show your gratitude. If you choose gifts, find something meaningful.

Spoil them with love and make an effort to recognize them on your wedding day. Add them onto your wedding program and give them a plus one without question. 

Please share with other brides(maids) that may find this advice helpful. Our team knows the struggle of keeping a balanced mind when planning a wedding. Focus on enjoying your wedding day, on celebrating love, on what really matters, and let us take care of capturing every moment.

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With love,
Jae

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